Osho World Online Magazine :: January 2012

SAY GOODBYE WITHOUT GRIEFThe Times of India, 10 December 2011Tung-men Wu did not grieve when his son died.It is difficult not to grieve when somebody you loved so much has died. It is possible only if you have known something of the essential. It is possible only if you have tasted something of the deathless, if you have transcended the accidental. He did not grieve, he was not sad. He was not weeping or crying; he was not broken. He remained just the same as he was before.The wife was disturbed. She said: “No one in the world loved his son as much as you did, why do you not grieve now that he is dead?”Ordinarily, this is our logic, that if you love a person too much you will grieve too much when he is gone. The logic is fallacious; the logic has a deep flaw in it. In fact, if you have loved a person really when he is gone he is gone; you will not grieve much. If you have not loved the person deeply, then you will grieve very much.Your father dies, or your mother dies. If you have loved him totally while he was alive, you will be able to say goodbye to him without any grief – because you loved him. That experience of love was total and fulfilling; nothing is left undone; nothing is hanging over your head. Whatsoever was possible has happened; now you can accept it. What more was possible? Even if he had been alive, what more would have been possible? The experience is complete.

via Osho World Online Magazine :: January 2012.

via Osho World Online Magazine :: January 2012.

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